Wednesday, October 17, 2012
Struggling
I am really having a hard time knowing how to deal with the limit testing of my 3-year old. He wants to do what he wants to do when he wants to do it, and he is very stubborn about it. Sometimes it can just seem silly, but it can get to the point where it is dangerous. I don't want to get overly angry at him or label him -- or let him be labeled -- as bad. How do I love him through this, and help him grow up to be an independent person who als does have consideration for people around him and respect where it is due?
Monday, October 8, 2012
Spilled Chocolate Milk and an Evening to Remember
Last night, my three-year-old threw the remainder of his Happy Meal chocolate milk (bought by Grandpa) on the floor of the back of the car instead of giving it to my outstretched hand, thus dousing and staining a bag full of library books. I was not a Happy Mommy.
It is difficult to know how to deal with discipline. He does not listen to me or follow instructions enough, and there are times that there can be real consequences of that, on different levels. And unfortunately often there are other things going on, so my whole devotion is not focused on inculcating societal norms. My tools feel limited sometimes, whether is is impaired breath and holding my one year old or plans that we have that I don't want to give up to teach a lesson at this minute.
On the other hand, I got to go out for "An Evening to Remember" at the Cosmopolitan Cabaret tonight and enjoy a fantastic show. To be completely honest, I was not completely looking forward to it, because once upon a time I was invited to sing in the show, and with other things going on that invitation slipped through the cracks and was forgotten. But the person who originally invited me to sing graciously offered me a ticket to the show, and it ended up being one of the best tickets in the house, at a table right in front. I really worked beforehand, on the way there, to take on the best of what I once wanted to be as a nun, to be open to the moment and to the singers and not to hold on to any tension or jealousy, and I think I was able to really open up and be present and enjoy the uniqueness and power of every singer.
Now I better get to bed, the better to handle all of my responsibilities -- and joys -- tomorrow.
It is difficult to know how to deal with discipline. He does not listen to me or follow instructions enough, and there are times that there can be real consequences of that, on different levels. And unfortunately often there are other things going on, so my whole devotion is not focused on inculcating societal norms. My tools feel limited sometimes, whether is is impaired breath and holding my one year old or plans that we have that I don't want to give up to teach a lesson at this minute.
On the other hand, I got to go out for "An Evening to Remember" at the Cosmopolitan Cabaret tonight and enjoy a fantastic show. To be completely honest, I was not completely looking forward to it, because once upon a time I was invited to sing in the show, and with other things going on that invitation slipped through the cracks and was forgotten. But the person who originally invited me to sing graciously offered me a ticket to the show, and it ended up being one of the best tickets in the house, at a table right in front. I really worked beforehand, on the way there, to take on the best of what I once wanted to be as a nun, to be open to the moment and to the singers and not to hold on to any tension or jealousy, and I think I was able to really open up and be present and enjoy the uniqueness and power of every singer.
Now I better get to bed, the better to handle all of my responsibilities -- and joys -- tomorrow.
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